Women and dating mistakes
For example, telling someone you love him or her so they will sleep with you, and then not calling them again.This form of manipulation is simply unacceptable (to put it mildly), and does not lead to healthy relationships.Let things evolve a bit, as you get to know someone. Avoidance of intimacy: While this one is traditionally men's domain, women are quickly catching up in the fear of commitment zone.Patience and restraint are required here, even though you may feel pressed for time. Modern society imposes so many requirements and expectations on what makes for a "good catch," and that makes it hard to sort through whether someone would be a good choice for us.In the first 3-6 months of a relationship, you are likely running on oxytocin, which is a chemical found in chocolate.It creates the sense of well-being and euphoria that comes with "falling in love." This might as well be dubbed the period of temporary insanity, because you are not in command of all your faculties; your brain is hijacked by those lovely chemicals, interfering with your ability to think clearly.Address these problems early, and don't waste your time. Interrogating your date: "How many children do you want" is not a good opening sentence.You want to show interest by asking about their likes or dislikes, but not press someone for information.
Being anxious is a mood killer, and will not make you attractive to a potential mate. Try to tap into your self-confidence and trust that if the relationship is meant to work out, it will. Ignoring red flags: If someone doesn't show up when you're supposed to meet, that's a red flag.
Unless you can ascertain and directly communicate your needs (by being clear and specific), then you are basically operating on a child level.
While many people get by this way, it is not very effective, and puts you at a disadvantage when you are trying to get your needs met.
If you have baggage, then best to work it out in individual therapy before pursuing a new relationship, at least to a point where it isn't affecting your reactions and clouding your judgment. Fantasizing about the future: While men are typically (not always) the masters of game playing, women have this one down pat.
When you catch yourself trying on his last name before the third date, it's time to remind yourself to slow down.